What I'm about to write is not related to winning lotteries and getting happy but it is a general search towards the dynamics and meaning of happiness in people. Is a person happy? Usually if you ask this question from people, they will evaluate their happiness based on the reality and their will. Basically how much someone has some will compared to the reality is a measure for happiness. Is everything exactly how you want it to be? Are there lots of wishes that you have? Are things on the right track?
So lets say some things are not the way someone wants them to be, the main question here would be: “was there something this person could have done?” or the unwanted state is the consequence of events which the person had no control over? In the case that the situation could have been managed, lack of an action from the person has caused the unwanted result. The reason for this lack of action or wrong action can be any negative personal attribute such as fear, laziness, greed, etc. It would be ok to feel sad in this case since this sadness might have positive effects in the future to make you overcome the negative behaviors and make the correct decisions and eventually make things happen the way you want them to be, and hence, bring happiness to yourself.
The important discussion here is the second case where things are in an unwanted state because of events that we have had no control over. Interesting observation in this case is that many people feel sad, without thinking about it really. Do you ever get really sad when you “not win” in a lottery? What will you tell someone who is just sitting around and wishing for a bag full of money to fall from the sky? If we think deeply, we usually should condemn expecting randomness to occur. Expecting positive consequences from random events is the attribute of the weak, the strong will make things happen and will not mourn when things out of their control do not turn the way they want them to be, random events. So random here indicates anything outside our control.
A lot of times people believe that the more intelligent you are, the more you suffer in this world. They refer to knowledgeable people who always mention how things should be and indicate all the problems in the world and many times wish they were just very simple creatures with less understanding to be able to enjoy basic things in life. I highly oppose this belief. If you know a lot and know about all the problems, if there is something you could have done about it and didn’t then fine, be sad, but change yourself and try to make things better, try to be stronger, don’t just whine. But these people are usually sad because they complain about things which are not in their control; in this case I believe that this feeling is not justifiable the same way that being sad when not winning in a lottery is not justifiable. Saying your not happy because a lot of things outside your domain of control should have been different is just pure selfishness. The hard part for the knowledgeable people is since they know a lot of good states, they want to reach those good states, and for this journey they have to get rid of many negative attributes such as laziness and fear and well this is what makes it harder for them.
In conclusion, the pursuit of happiness (which was also a great movie by the way) is a convergent formula. You will pursue happiness when you are not happy, this means you believe you have problems and bad attitudes which have brought unwanted consequences for you, this will make you change, you will be stronger, the next time you should feel less un-happy because theoretically you are now stronger and that small amount of un-happiness will make you even stronger and so this is why you will converge to happiness. (by t going to infinity of course )
If your happiness is diverging and you are feeling more miserable everyday, this means you are getting weaker everyday, stop, rethink, go on, make the path a convergent one.
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